"said look here ya brain-dead tin can if healer cant handle your pulling then listen to healer" but instead of listening like a any tank should.
Why would you expect anyone to respond to this in a nice manner? If someone said that to you, your first reaction would be to probably get defensive and not want to cooperate. Everyone sucked in this situation, sorry to say. Saying something rude and aggressive to someone will usually not result in them wanting to listen to you, regardless of who is "right" or "wrong".