While I wont be un-subbing I feel like this would be a good thing to say before the flame war gets too out of hand.

1. We're a community and this issue shouldn't change that.

People who are leaving due to the gender lock have every right to do so. They're not being petty or entitled. This is a service that they're paying for and if the service is not what they feel is acceptable then they have every right to take their money elsewhere.

People who are staying shouldn't be viewed as the enemy either. Yes there is a lot to be unhappy about. However many like myself still feel like there is a lot worth staying around for. Be it the shadowbringers story, new jobs, etc.

2. We should stick together and express our differences constructively

Attacking one another and belittling a persons viewpoint or grievances doesn't help anyone. You're not supporting the franchise by hurting other people. You're just being a jerk.

Same goes for anyone who think's its okay to attack those who actually got what they wanted. They're not the cause of your problems so don't make them feel guilty.

Everyone has a side and we should put it down peacefully to let the devs know why so many are unhappy and what's working and what isn't

3. We need to work out a constructive way to make our voices heard

It's pretty clear that the devs don't normally listen to the forums a lot. Especially the non Japanese ones (imo I could be wrong). But they do pay attention to numbers. Players need to assert their buying / playing power with what they do and don't agree with.

If you feel the game is beyond repair. Un-sub. It may sound callous but it's an effective wake up call to the developers that something is going wrong and they need to fix it.

If you don't like content. Don't do it. No more grudging through stuff just because it has some kind of reward locked behind it. The devs won't learn otherwise.

And finally. If there's a post that expresses your concerns in a constructive manner. Please give it a thumbs up. This will signal the developers that this opinion is widely held and will hopefully get more attention from the dev team.

Any way that's all I had to share. I'm happy for those who got what they wanted, however I'm still very hurt at how things have been going with the extreme gender bias and lack of acceptable communication with the development team. I hope we can all band together and let them know so we can start steering things in the right direction.