Quote Originally Posted by UnrealTai View Post
I had to stop reading after the part about making you all sit there to complete her airship pieces and keeping the gil.

I volunterd to help someone in PF do theirs ONCE and it was the most painful experience ive had in the game. (notice I joined this forum when it re released in 2011 so it says alot)
I would never ask others to constantly sit in there for me, and if i did id give gil for it.

I would have dropped that Fc after a single day.

Edit: ok Ive read everything including the update now.
She sounds like a sociopath honestly. And I dont mean that loosely. Something about the way her apology is described sounds very artificial. Takes one to know one, I used to be one, a long time ago. Not sure how or why I changed and both happy and sad I did. Anyways

I would stay away from her. Hard to explain without making this a book as to what Im seeing in her behavior.

Ill try to put it into one paragraph. Someone who constantly, screws you over, then feigns apologizing each time, is just using that apology to play you, the non sociopath, right into their hand, because they know you have emotions which they do not. Which is why they keep doing it. She doesnt think twice about it nor lose any sleep.

Getting your life together also requires a balance, while you have things to fix IRL that doesnt mean forget enjoying games altogether too. Fix your life and keep playing here and there. And Id strongly advise ignoring statements from your friends where even her name is mentioned and talk about somehing else when she coms up. Just shut her out.
I get what you're saying, and I don't want you think that I am throwing caution into the wind. I am not someone who is unfamiliar with the behavioral patterns of a sociopath. I dated one several years back, and I know all about fake flake apologies, empty promises and manipulation. I took a lot of things into consideration, which is why I did not just hop back into the FC after my discussion with her, and decided to take a break from the game. It's going to take some time to heal from this and everything that has been going on. She's not someone who has "constantly" screwed me over, but her previous behavior is most certainly unacceptable, and I will not be taken for granted.

However, other things have to be taken into account as well such as my emotional instability, and allowing things in the real world to bleed into the game. It isn't just her testimony but the other FC members admitting their own faults and advising me to hear her out after their own discussions with her. It is clear at this point that leaving the FC affected everyone. I did not expect anyone to leave with me, and mentally prepared myself to be on my own again, but I also did not expect them to fight so hard in the name of the FC. What I determined is that the FC leader is not the FC. The other members weren't fighting for her, or even me. They were fighting for the FC, which basically goes bye bye if any of the core members leave for good. Everyone knows that should I make the decision to come back, some things are going to have to change and nothing less than those changes are going to keep this thing together.

In short, this is bigger than just myself or her. I was also being quite selfish during all of this making it all about me and my feelings, and not even considering how my departure would make the others feel and react, and I feel horrible for it. Trust me, this was not brought to my attention by anyone other than myself after I have processed some of my thoughts and allowed myself to cool down enough to think rationally again. However, I do greatly appreciate the warnings. They are most certainly justified.