There are discord bots that allow one to bot gather?

Or are you talking about discord bots that show gather times / slots? That's not datamining the game so much as accessing publicly available information from websites like Garlandbell. So is any bot that accesses Lodestone.

Here's the thing. There will be no point Square Enix kicks down Discord's door and starts mass banning everybody who's in a discord with an Aymeric bot. There will be no point that they start accepting Discord-linked screenshots and images as evidence of ToS abuse, as they've already stated such things can be doctored.

I do have to ask: what makes parsing "cheating" in this game where it's not cheating in other games?