Either you aren't looking hard enough or the player base on your server are just very bad at character creation. As an Elezen Male, I will 100% admit that it is hard to make a really attractive Elezen, on both sides. A lot of the options we have for faces and facial features are weird, but with enough patience and dedication you can really make some Beautiful looking characters. The Elezen body is also hard to work with, especially the Male body. They have such a shapeless form, so making glams takes a bit of work, but once you know which pieces work well on the body shape it is quite easy. I've also noticed that most glam that "looks best" on Elezen does not look the same on other races (not to say they look bad). The biggest struggle for Elezen players is trying to make sure that their heads don't look to small on the body. This can be easily done by being conscious of how big and bulky your glam is compared to your headpiece/hair.
Now on the part of emotes and voices... don't even get me started. The Elezen emotes are... not great, I'd say they are hands down some of the worst options, especially when you stand them next to any other race. I definitely feel like Elezen have a handful of interesting emotes, but when going toe to toe against other races they are mostly dull and offputting. The Femzen voices are decent, but the Manzen voices seriously need to be rerecorded lol. The only decent sounding ones are the ones they share with Miqote and Hyur, the rest are weird.
That being said, Elezen are a very interesting character choice and if you main one you know how much of a struggle it can be, but the payoff is fantastic because you are like a unicorn. I absolutely LOVE when I get in another party and I see another Elezen, or I'm walking around the city and see one or two of them. We are a rare breed, but I kind of like it that way. There aren't 100 clones of my character with different hair/eye colors every time I turn around.