I did a reply earlier but looks like I screwed up and it didn't work so I'll try again. I had tried the quest 3 times and I never died, just Duty Failed. My gear is the level 60 poetic totem gear so it's fine. In the last 2 tries, I managed to give her ether but the duty still failed shortly after. I also used my tank pet. I may try it later using my level 60 Dragon which is also geared with totem gear. Good advice above and will keep that in mind, thanks.