Just another update if anyone actually looks at this.

I have spend the past hour trying to do stuff in FFXIV, and I can't. At the moment this game is 100% unplayable for me and im wasting my game time thanks.

I'v discovered that doing anything in this game that causes and "interaction" leading to the red bar to fill be it attuning to a crystal or picking up and item will lead to me being disconnected.
I can't even do the level 1 50 exp quest to pick up 5 things because picking up the fist one is an interaction and boots me right out.

I honestly have no idea what to do anymore, all i can do is run around the world doing nothing.. I'm to afraid to case stone on a monster in case the casting timer triggers a disconnection to.