Is this typical tank behavior in DF dungeons?

[Keddera_StormMoon]

I dunno, I've always had the attitude of "You pull it, you tank it" myself. But I guess this game is too forgiving in the lower levels for that threat to be effective.

[Lambdafish]

If I'd stayed behind the tank, it would also mean leaving the DPS and healer whom is at the front unsupported. That would also be inconsiderate. It's a low-level dungeon. Once combat has started, you help out right? Leaving your team to fend for themselves to "respect" the tank is awfully obtuse.

If the DPS and healer are pulling mobs and die from it, I don't see how that's inconsiderate on your part.

Like I said, we all rush ahead sometimes, but that's not a right that you have. Not letting the tank lead and instead going off ahead and pulling mobs as DPS and healers doesnt help anyone learn and is inconsiderate no matter how you look at it, and making excuses doesn't help your case

[AppleJinx]

I am willing to bet no reasonable people would come to this conclusion even if this was their first ever dungeon experience, which means that this is definitely a perfectly reasonable and believable story and not at all a pathetic attempt to garner attention.

[DBriggs304]

So I main PLD I usually tank unless a friend or FC/LS mate wants to tank, but in this case I went in to 50/60 rolo with my RDM and my in game wife went healer(WHM). So a little but into the dungeon she gets a lag spike and everything freezes up, she hits bene cause she's worried the dude was gonna die while she was lagging and the PLD immediately calls her out and starts going off on her and calls her a ****y healer, I stood up for her saying I've known her for 3 years and she's anything but a ****y healer then he called me a simpleton and that we were just casuals. Ironically earlier he had forgot to apply any oath and I pulled aggro but I didn't call him out on him I just thought "meh its DF", I did bring it up after he went on his rant though and he went on about how he was allowed to make mistakes and she wasn't. Should I just try to tank as often as possible to avoid these kinds of people?

I would say No, it's not typical behavior based on my experience. For the past year I have been playing, I think I had two rude people in a group. Everyone else has always been pleasant, helpful, or just quiet.

[Lunalepsy]

This is very normal, which is sad to say.

[SerLuke]

I am willing to bet no reasonable people would come to this conclusion even if this was their first ever dungeon experience, which means that this is definitely a perfectly reasonable and believable story and not at all a pathetic attempt to garner attention.

I have aspergers so I’m not really getting what you are trying to say here please be as direct as possible.

[Transient_Shadow]

and my in game wife went healer(WHM)

First off Aww <3
Secondly I would recommend reporting that kind of behavior. It's not normally how people act in dungeons but there has been an influx in toxic players of late. Last month I had two people become abusive towards me simply because of my pink glam. (one of which actually used a slur).

most people understand that life happens and mistakes a made. I typically don't get frustrated with players that i'm playing with unless they refuse to learn from mistakes made in a duty. And I legitimately get mad when people start blaming other people for either their mistakes or life happening.

Typically people who go as far as what your talking about are kicked for harassment.

[Edax]

If the DPS and healer are pulling mobs and die from it, I don't see how that's inconsiderate on your part.

Like I said, we all rush ahead sometimes, but that's not a right that you have. Not letting the tank lead and instead going off ahead and pulling mobs as DPS and healers doesnt help anyone learn and is inconsiderate no matter how you look at it, and making excuses doesn't help your case

I'm assuming that you've played the lower level duties many times, so should already know that the parties moves at a momentum that is outside the control of any one player. By saying I don't actually have the right is overstepping your bounds. I don't care what you say my rights are. I can just as easily say the tank had no right to throw a tantrum and quit. I can also easily say DPS and Healer have every right to move ahead if they can handle it and the tank has no right to get emotional about it, especially at the bottom level duties where a tank isn't even needed. Or what, am I now encouraged to quit teams that go ahead of me every I tank now too? Do you approve of me having this right?

[Frizze]

Edax - There are some people on these forums who are incapable of ever blaming the tank. Sometimes these arguments arent worth having.

[Mikki]

I would vote kick him before last boss lol (you got 2/3 votes on your side already). He'd probably end up breaking his monitor from the rage after.

You. I like you. Hahaha.
Seriously, this seems mean but people like him need to learn that if you aren't nice to others, then they won't want to play with you. If you can't play nicely, go play some other toxic multiplayer game. Like League. FFXIV generally has such a friendly community, it's a real shame when we get some of those immature jerks voicing their opinions rather loudly.