Is this typical tank behavior in DF dungeons?

[SerLuke]

"Tankxiety" can hit pretty hard, especially if you get called out by your party "^ ^

Yeah it really does, when I’m on my PLD I get a lot of anxiety if people run ahead of me and start pulling like they are telling me I’m doing a bad job without saying, if I’ve misjudged the amount to pull and I’m pulling too conservatively I’m generally willing to be flexible and pull more of the part asks, running ahead of me just makes me feel like I’m a crappy player/tank, I have aspergers though so maybe I take stuff more personally than others do

[Keddera_StormMoon]

I dunno, I've always had the attitude of "You pull it, you tank it" myself. But I guess this game is too forgiving in the lower levels for that threat to be effective.

[AppleJinx]

I am willing to bet no reasonable people would come to this conclusion even if this was their first ever dungeon experience, which means that this is definitely a perfectly reasonable and believable story and not at all a pathetic attempt to garner attention.

[DBriggs304]

So I main PLD I usually tank unless a friend or FC/LS mate wants to tank, but in this case I went in to 50/60 rolo with my RDM and my in game wife went healer(WHM). So a little but into the dungeon she gets a lag spike and everything freezes up, she hits bene cause she's worried the dude was gonna die while she was lagging and the PLD immediately calls her out and starts going off on her and calls her a ****y healer, I stood up for her saying I've known her for 3 years and she's anything but a ****y healer then he called me a simpleton and that we were just casuals. Ironically earlier he had forgot to apply any oath and I pulled aggro but I didn't call him out on him I just thought "meh its DF", I did bring it up after he went on his rant though and he went on about how he was allowed to make mistakes and she wasn't. Should I just try to tank as often as possible to avoid these kinds of people?

I would say No, it's not typical behavior based on my experience. For the past year I have been playing, I think I had two rude people in a group. Everyone else has always been pleasant, helpful, or just quiet.

[Lunalepsy]

This is very normal, which is sad to say.

[SerLuke]

I am willing to bet no reasonable people would come to this conclusion even if this was their first ever dungeon experience, which means that this is definitely a perfectly reasonable and believable story and not at all a pathetic attempt to garner attention.

I have aspergers so I’m not really getting what you are trying to say here please be as direct as possible.

[Transient_Shadow]

and my in game wife went healer(WHM)

First off Aww <3
Secondly I would recommend reporting that kind of behavior. It's not normally how people act in dungeons but there has been an influx in toxic players of late. Last month I had two people become abusive towards me simply because of my pink glam. (one of which actually used a slur).

most people understand that life happens and mistakes a made. I typically don't get frustrated with players that i'm playing with unless they refuse to learn from mistakes made in a duty. And I legitimately get mad when people start blaming other people for either their mistakes or life happening.

Typically people who go as far as what your talking about are kicked for harassment.

[Frizze]

Edax - There are some people on these forums who are incapable of ever blaming the tank. Sometimes these arguments arent worth having.

[KageTokage]

The level of toxicity in XIV has been several magnitudes lower then any other MMO I've played when it comes to random dungeons.

It helps that there's a lot less pressure due to the damage being tuned low enough that getting aggro from a mob isn't going to be almost immediately lethal like it is in some other MMOs.

[Bright-Flower]

The level of toxicity in XIV has been several magnitudes lower then any other MMO I've played when it comes to random dungeons.

Yeah, while I do on occasion find an elitist jerk or a legit aweful player not open to constructive criticism, by and large DF experiences for me have been pleasant or at least neutral in the game. Though that does make some of the legit bad experiences stand out a bit, they're fairly rare for me.