I think you're playing the wrong game for your interest mate, this is an MMO which means there will always be people and a social aspect in some way, sure you can play solo, you can do everything by yourself but that kind of goes against ff14, you can rp or whatever else but since there are a million other players doing their thing you shouldnt get mad at them for technically playing the game the "right" way.

it may be a final fantasy but really its only in name only, i see your issues and wish someone would make a game for players like you but ff14 isnt it.