Change to the ban system.

[SannaR]

Sometimes you just need to take a slow deep breath and fight the urge. I used to have firey rage when I was growing up and struggled to control it but I worked on it because I didn't like how it made me feel during or even afterwards. It's hard work and can take some time to train yourself in going this is not worth it. I'm not saying one shouldn't stick up for friends but try to do so while not swearing or using harsh language. Do something that can act as a distraction until you've calmed down enough to where the urge isn't as intense.

[Freyt]

Every year since the beta of 2.0 I've managed to play without having a single encounter with a GM. It's not to say that sometimes things just happen, but where there's a pattern there's certainly a cause. It's clearly you that's the cause, and whether or not it's something that can be fixed isn't reason enough to warrant changing an entire system that the whole community abides by, including the server staff and developers.

Do you want to be a member of society? Or do you want to sit on a pedestal? You can't choose both, and I can tell you that one of those things is impossible to begin with.

[Ashpd]

Yes, the system is not perfect (and there is a confirmation of that for a long time). But if you are an impulsive person and constantly, uncontrollably explode in the chat room - be ready to be held responsible for your actions. This is a common thing in any game. So squeeze your teeth and accept it, as you deserve it.

[Bacent]

This is my second account that I'm working on in the event I do slip up and lose everything.

As others have stated in not being very inclined to believe what you say, this comment right here in your first post really makes me think that what you say isn't the full 'truth' as it were. You flat out admitted to working on a second account if your first one gets banned. Basically saying you're preparing for ban evading if it comes to that.

Second. You say you're easily provoked. How about making a seperate chat window, you know where you can only see stuff in FC/Linkshell chats, that way if crap is flung at you, you don't take part of it. Then after you're done doing whatever it is, you can look back at the party chat, in another chat window that is, and see if they tried to start anything with you that you wouldn't want to be apart of.

There's a lot of things you could be doing to better control your impulses, as you put it, but it looks like you'd rather them change the rules than to work on yourself.

Because I have a problem controlling my emotions and I make spontaneous actions with out thinking. You can't control it no matter how easy it may sound to just not say anything. It's like telling a addict to just stop taking and expect them to just stop cold turkey

There's many ways to try to change how you act. Saying can't is just straight up saying you've given up on trying. There's also therapy you can opt to go for, I've been to therapists many times in the past because I'm rather explosive when my switch is flipped, and I've gotten better over the years on it. Back when I was 17, I used to stab the wall of my bedroom wildly any time I got angry for anything little.

If you 'can't' work on it, then why did you even post here, in all honesty.

I'm now at the point of having a 800 hour account deleted all because trolls got the best of me. How is this fair at all?

You feed a 'troll', as you put it, and you'll only get them flocking to you. People want you to react, as as you've said, you've ALWAYS reacted. You're just as must to blame as them, if not much more.


But the main point is, we don't know you. We more than likely haven't played with you in game. Only your friends, and possibly FC members, would know you. We're the faceless masses you're trying to convince with only one small part of a much larger story, and as I said, with how you're showing yourself here on the forums, I'm not inclined to believe you.



P.S. - If going by what you've said about yourself is true in this case, I would look up Intermittent explosive disorder. As I said, I've stabbed a wall before over little things, and if you are blowing up at the smallest provocation, this might be something to look into, and possibly get help.

I am NOT a doctor, so I can only say something that MIGHT be possible from what little I've seen, but if you didn't know about this, it might be a place to start with.

[KaivaC]

I didn't even get halfway through the first page before realizing how this was going to go down. OP, while I do sympathize if you do have a mental illness of some kind, the rules are there in place for a reason and they shouldn't be bent for any one person because that would set a pretty bad predicament. If you've been hit with suspension before and the problems continue, perhaps FFXIV is not the game for you. The point is that this is supposed to create a comfortable environment for everybody, not just the one player who feels that the rules should be adjusted for them. Again, having only read through only half of the first page, while I sympathize about mental illness, I cannot sympathize about asking for some kind of exemption to the rule about suspensions and bans.

If you have such a hard time controlling your impulses online, and you've been warned about it before and it continues to happen, then I'll be plain and blunt - FFXIV is not the game for you, and you honestly would need to start seeking professional help to assist you in getting that under control before you come back into an online gaming environment. That's just my two cents on the matter.

Also: please note that you've probably just put this account on notice as well, so if you can't control yourself, you run the risk of having both this account and your main terminated if the GMs link the two together. tldr: Either work on getting the help you need or you'll just be banned.

[Awha]

Maybe I am misunderstanding or simply lack context but it seems as if you are using mental health as an excuse for poor behavior, which it is not. When I went through ABA that is a key factor they made clear. My lack of understanding when it comes to social cues or context is not a free pass to say or do anything. People may understand others may not, either way our actions are our own and we have to live with the consequences.

[Beckett]

I'm here because the GM's pointed me here and told me to make my case here and they will look into it.

Considering how the go-to response from GMs seems to be, "Make a thread on the forums!" they REALLY need to make a sub-forum for GM issues or game-change requests. There's no reason why General Discussion should be flooded with threads like this.

Or even better, the GMs need to be told that saying, "Don't like the way the game is run? Try asking the devs to change it!" is not a viable response. I realize it's hard to deal with people like OP, but it's a cheap and backhanded way to get rid of someone. They know damn well that posting on the forum will accomplish nothing, but they try to instill false hope in order to get annoying customers off their asses. They need to just be honest say the rules are the rules and they aren't changing.

[Hope_For_Change]

[QUOTE=Bacent;4841596]As others have stated in not being very inclined to believe what you say, this comment right here in your first post really makes me think that what you say isn't the full 'truth' as it were. You flat out admitted to working on a second account if your first one gets banned. Basically

You all have the right to believe what ever you like but the reason why I made the second account is to use as a back up in the event I break a rule with out meaning to like the last time I was reported for telling someone to "f off" before leaving the party. My reason for saying that is because this person was being toxic to another player in the party and I was sick of his bs and when I told him to calm down, he responded in a negative way, mocking me and thus I said what I said and left the party right away, blocking him after that. He reported me for it and that's that. Before that I had no idea that was a "Ban" word that is forbidden because I use to use the F word like it was nothing. To me it's just another word used in replace of something less impactful. So I'm now scared to death that I might end up breaking some kind of rule by mistake and it will cost me everything I care about. To me I don't see any point in lying about my story. What do I gain from that? Knowing the people I'm trying to get my message to has the tools to look back at past reports and saved chat logs of each case. Anyone who would be doing what I'm doing but are fake and are truly toxic to the core are simple ill informed.

[Hope_For_Change]

Considering how the go-to response from GMs seems to be, "Make a thread on the forums!" they REALLY need to make a sub-forum for GM issues or game-change requests. There's no reason why General Discussion should be flooded with threads like this.

Or even better, the GMs need to be told that saying, "Don't like the way the game is run? Try asking the devs to change it!" is not a viable response. I realize it's hard to deal with people like OP, but it's a cheap and backhanded way to get rid of someone. They know damn well that posting on the forum will accomplish nothing, but they try to instill false hope in order to get annoying customers off their asses. They need to just be honest say the rules are the rules and they aren't changing.

Many big MMORPG games have changes in rules if you look deep enough to find out. There should be a way to reduce your risk of losing the account. I've been reported over the course of 3 full years. It's not like I just made my account and started acting like a toxic tool to everyone and anyone. People make mistakes and do you really think you should live with your mistakes for the rest of your life? If you did something 15 years ago when you where less intelligent do you think that should be held over your head for the rest of your life? Everyone seems to think I'm this monster, on the same tier as a racist or a sexist person. Rules are not something that are set in stone for the rest of time with no room for any improvement. Why can't I just suggest these ideas with out being seen as some kind of monster? This is like if someone who stole a candy bar from a dollar store was seen as some kind of sick child predator....

[Fredco191]

.....is that why your username is “Hope For Change”?