Things to think about before you call someone "Bad"

[SerLuke]

That's a long time to be sore over getting kicked. You can always queue up and try again with a different group, no reason to stay upset that long.

What can I say? When people here justify that kind of behavior it opens up old wounds

[Vidu]

What can I say? When people here justify that kind of behavior it opens up old wounds

I'm not saying this applies to your case - I dont know what happend back then and there are probably ways to be less blunt about it, but this just reminded me of a thread from a few weeks ago in wish a guy complained about being kicked from O11NM along with a message that he sucked at his job, paladin aswell, "funny" enough.

Over the course of the thread it turned out that the person in question actually sucked very, very much - only using their aggro-combo, when not being the MT, not responding to the chat and when called out on it they basically replied with "If the MT didnt want me to steal the boss they should have said so!" (which they clearly shouldnt have to say in the first place, thats tanking 101). His actions alone caused the whole party to wipe, because the boss kept spinning and killed everyone in the process.
So, again: I'm not saying the kick you recived two years ago was of the same nature, but I just wanted to illustrate that in some cases this behaviour is very much justified - not the insult, of course, but the kick of someone who clearly caused a wipe due to total cluelessness when they shouldnt be clueless at all.

And as someone who has been through their share of therapy for depression, I'd like to tell you that first off your party doesnt know about that and secondly your party - unless its one made up of friends that you want to tell - doesnt need to know about that or consider that. At least I never wanted any "special" treatment or consideration from strangers in a videogame - either I'm able to do my job or they have every right to dismiss me.
You cant take everything that happens in the game to heart, specially not because such a dismissal doesnt goes against you as a person but against your current performance, that you can work and improve on if you wish to do so.

While I dont agree with van_arns almost rude blutness, I do agree with the general idea behind it: If a person is extremly underperforming and doesnt show signs of taking advice/improving or doesnt react to communication attemtepts at all, they should be dismissed. In your case the whole "trying to communicate"-part seemed to have been missing? Unless someone is obviously trolling, thats something I'd always try before dismissing, so that was handled poorly.

But it could probably be also be handled better on your part - by being upfront about being new to an encounter or job and actually asking for advice or hints, or at least letting everyone know that you're still trying to figure things out. Because if you dont speak up about such things, people will (rightfully) assume that you infact know what you're doing.
If I happen to play melee-dps or a tank-class I'm unfamiliar with, I'll always let my party know that I might be a bit rusty and apologise in advance. If it gets to bad, I'll offer to leave on my own account or switch jobs (if its a PF-party).