I don’t think in this thread and in the general community is saying that being hurtful or mean to someone else for bad performance is ok. But politely explaining to someone a way that they can improve is different; you aren’t putting someone down, you’re trying to help them up to be even better. I think this is what people are encourage.

It’s easy to see advice as criticism, especially online. But even when it comes across as harsh, just remind yourself that it may be coming from a good place.

I think the best way to deal with this situation is communication. If someone gives advice in a harsh or cruel way, let them know. Apologise for whatever is it you done wrong and let them know that you appreciate the advice (but feel it could be worded differently if applicable lol).

Staying calm can be difficult when you’re in the spotlight being criticised, but approaching it with a clear head and not letting yourself get aggravated is key to avoiding party conflicts, which ultimately just result in the content taking longer or someone dropping