Things to think about before you call someone "Bad"

[HyoMinPark]

You had two healers, so it was a party of eight players. That's not a DF dungeon. If your friend had to do a lot of extra work because the other healer was slacking, it's only natural they were not happy about it. I don't know the details, but from what I've read, personally, I wouldn't have asked the other healer "can you actually heal?", I would've been more specific. In which parts of the encounter/primal is your friend struggling more? (because of the other healer slacking or playing poorly), I would've spotted those dangerous moments where your friend felt overwhelmed and then asked the other healer if they could cast an extra medica II in X phase, or have the tank topped in X tank buster while your friend handles the aoes. If you are more specific on where you want others to improve, it'll help them. It won't have any effect on the people that are deliberately slacking, but it'll help greatly on the people that are just confused on how to handle a situation and don't know any better.

Hello. I’m the friend in question here. Since I’m being referenced, I’m going to take the time to respond.

This happened in O11N, so you’re right in saying it wasn’t a dungeon. However, that doesn’t make the behavior any more or less excusable.

I asked countless times for my co-healer to help with healing. I explicitedly asked for them to use their regens (I was on AST, in Noct sect for the first 2 pulls, but eventually went Diurnal for the 3rd pull since they seemed allergic to the Regen/Medica II buttons). I asked for them to keep a Regen on the MT. I asked for them to heal after the tank busters. I did nothing but ask them to help heal, even naming the AOE attacks and the tankbuster in case they didn’t remember/didn’t know what they were explicitly called, and their response to me was “I guess I can heal the tank then”.

We kicked them after that because I told them “I’m sorry, I’m not going to be stuck solo-healing this fight because you just don’t want to heal”. Enough of the party apparently also agreed, because they were removed less than 10 seconds after the Vote Dismiss was placed.


Such behavior is completely unacceptable. Such play is completely unaccceptable. And, as I said above: it doesn’t matter if it’s in an 8-man trial over a dungeon; who knows what their dungeon playstyle is even like if I have to explictly ask for them to please use their toolkit. I’d wager to say probably not that stellar either; but it’s easier to get away with poor play in dungeons sometimes since the requirements for them are set so low. Doesn’t make it any less unacceptable in the end.

You’re a level 70 player. You aren’t new anymore. Start learning how to play, and stop forcing others to make up for your shortcomings. I’m far more patient with new people, especially if I see them trying. But when I’m stuck with a co-healer that isn’t new to the content—that has better gear than me, because this individual did: they were full i370 with i380 and I was still in i360 Augmented Crafted stuff—and that doesn’t want to perform their designated role, I don’t have any patience anymore. It wasn’t even an issue of them doing “all DPS, no healing”; they were doing very little of both. Most of their time was spent jumping around.

I’m sorry, but I won’t apologize for removing them from the party. Hopefully they learn from the experience.