Exodus is pretty quiet, although (as evidenced) not as quiet as the others. There's still housing in all the wards, mostly smalls; mediums regularly pop in Mist and Goblet, sometimes in LB, and rarely (but occasionally) in Shiro. Larges I've seen pop up in Goblet and LB recently, one or two a week; you might be able to find one in the Mist, but I think Shiro's going to be a long hunt.

Limsa, Kugane, and Rhalgr's generally have ~20-50 players hanging around; Gridania & Uldah usually have ~25-30 players, and the rest of the hubs a small handful at best. There are enough folks to take down hunts but not so many that people are ever locked out of a zone (except for when Ixion first spawned.)

We're not currently preferred, but we do get the buff back on and off.

If you want as absolutely secluded as you can, you don't want Exodus. If you want enough people to enable you to get through content/see folks occasionally, without feeling claustrophobic, we're a pretty good server, I'd say.