To all you successful FC leaders... How did you do it?

[ArcaviusGreyashe]

Just to let you know, I don't scam people. They give me their gil of their own free will. I simply have the social skills to induce them into wanting to give it to me. That takes subtlety and finesse, which I have plenty of. Yes, I'm proud of having social skills. I'm NOT scamming people. Major difference.

Well, you're so skilled everyone tries to get out of your FC. So either you're just a basic troll, either you're just an egocentric and narcisstic person. In both cases, you won't listen to anyone, so... yeah, please don't answer that guy anymore.

[Penthea]

Just to let you know, I don't scam people. They give me their gil of their own free will. I simply have the social skills to induce them into wanting to give it to me. That takes subtlety and finesse, which I have plenty of. Yes, I'm proud of having social skills. I'm NOT scamming people. Major difference.

In your attempt to defend yourself you have actually made yourself sound even worse.

Perhaps karma is at work when it comes to your lack of success with your fc.

[KaivaC]

So now I ask you, with your wisdom and experience... How can I break this pattern? How did you and how does one create an awesome Free Company free of such instability and disloyalty?

Well, grandstanding like this certainly isn't helping. Especially if your FC members happen to frequent the forums and see something like this.

[Freyt]

Sometimes I forget people like this exist.

It's not something I wish to be reminded of, but I guess all information is worthwhile in the end.

[Bacent]

Honestly if you've been like how you're coming off in this thread, which is rather poor, for a while..... then I can see why your FC is dead. I wouldn't want to be part of it either.

[Coatl]

You probably put on the wrong FC buffs, and that's what made them leave.

[RuleofThree]

I generally leave FCs after about a few weeks of trying mostly because I don't feel like I'm apart of anything in that FC. I make a comment, and no one responds. I ask a question and get nothing. A person asks if anyone wants to do a roulette, I offer, and never get an invite...or they invite someone else first, despite no one else answering the offer. Though I think the biggest nail in the coffin is Discord. I mean, like it all you want, it alienates the rest of the FC. I'm sure all the action in most of the FCs I tried out is happening in Discord. The arguement is that I should have joined that Discord server, but it's fairely likely the same thing will happen, I won't get the time of day.

At the end of the day, it's cliques. Either you are a part of them, or not.

[van_arn]

I adhere to the philosophy of "choosing the battles that you can actually win at" according to Sun Tzu.

I stare at the sky. The universe, it speaks to me.

[KaivaC]

I had to think about how to word this. And there doesn't seem to be any other way to say it nicely, so ...here's your answer, in my opinion. FCs, at the start a lot of the time, are a reflection on their leaders. A bad leader will either lose members, or they will want the leader to step down if they like the FC itself. With that in mind, it takes a certain kind of leader to keep an FC running.

Based on past threads and things you have said before, it seems that the turn-off is...well...you. You seem quite narcissistic and attention-hungry. Take this for example:

Just to let you know, I don't scam people. They give me their gil of their own free will. I simply have the social skills to induce them into wanting to give it to me. That takes subtlety and finesse, which I have plenty of. Yes, I'm proud of having social skills. I'm NOT scamming people. Major difference.

That highlighted section - I have met toxic players with more grace and humility than you when you say this. If you want to leave, I'm not here to stop you. My pity well has kind of bottomed out these days. If you want to fix it, then maybe you need to identify your own flaws. Players, even friends, do not owe you any kind of loyalty in-game. You want to be a better leader and keep a good FC? Read the comments above my own. Figure out why they are saying that, and work on improving yourself as a player/person. Otherwise, you might as well be running a dead FC. Just giving you my honest, unfiltered opinion.

[NotOliverB]

The trick is to kick everyone and disable applications. That's how you do it.