what is it with these damn elitists in this game?

[van_arn]

On your opinion, anyone should know how to do every mechanic without a hassle and have BiS gear (that drops from savage or needs savage drops + tomes but that doesn't matter) and be able to pull up a 95 percentile performance to be acceptable to even join a learning pug?

To join a learning party for the current primal -- and to be worth your slot -- you need to be in the Mendacity tomestone set at minimum, be able to make it through Rabinastre and Lighthouse without looking like a fool, and be able to clear Sigma/Alphascape (story) without looking like a fool. On the class you're joining that learning party with.

If you can't handle these things, or can only meet these requirements on another class, you flatly aren't worth 7 other peoples' time.

These are generous requirements, and fit the ilvl progression exactly as expressed in the game.

You deserve a kick for anything less, because you're a detriment to your team. If you insist on doing extremes without being able to handle the above, you are not, as the OP stated "a good person." You are terrible and selfish, both as a player and a person.