How would an optional, official parser be toxic?

[Ranetsu-Akagane]

Or the randoms could have a shred of decency and not join content they aren't ready for just expecting the rest of the party to carry them? Just a thought.

Don't you understand, if I'm feeling lazy or don't feel like trying you're obligated to carry me! (I'm joking of course)

I really wish SE could change their stance on parsers, I mean they know people use them. I know they don't want people having their numbers mentioned, but I have to ask if I'm in a raid, and my damage is too low, wouldn't it only be fair if someone told me? I'd rather be told I'm not ready and to work on my damage and leave, than to be carried because I didn't earn the clear that way. I don't see someone telling me my damage is low or bad harassment, but maybe I'm just missing something?