Quote Originally Posted by JohnSeal View Post
Honestly,if you put in this terms yes I am sorry you feel in this way. I can understand the frustration and I don’t like fights or see people upset in general. I don’t get upset over people incompetence, I just expect will happen and that sometimes instances will be double of the length required.

No what you say is acceptable and not bad at all!
No the examples you made are not abusive or bad, I never say you are but many others are.
You are not toxic or offensive to others.
I think this is part of the breakdown in communication perhaps. What most people in this thread are advocating for is advice/criticism given in this fashion.

I am very opposed to people being mean to other players. Even my biggest pet peeve (healers not dpsing) doesn't get me to be mean to people but I will often counter it with something like "Hey (healers name) I promise you're safe to do some damage. I'll rotate my cooldowns, you don't have to worry about me too much" which seems reasonable to me and I would say most other people.

To be clear - if anyone is saying it is alright to belittle others because of poor performance I don't agree with that but I just don't see anyone here advocating for that approach. It seems like that's what you are arguing against but I don't think that is what anyone else is arguing for

Seriously, if you see someone saying treating people badly based on performance is okay point me in their direction and I will give them a piece of my mind.