How to give advice

[JohnSeal]

I tried to find an old post I made, but couldn't.

The premise is that I've had random people give advice to me. Like all advice/criticism you need to listen and evaluate regardless of context. Some of the most rewarding advice I've ever received professionally or in sports were from people that would make the average FF14 cry just by being in the same room as them.

I play USTA tennis at a decently high competitive level. I once played this scumlord who was CLEARLY sandbagging his rating. He wasn't rude during the match or before/after, but he wasn't as friendly and talkative as most tennis players are. After he completely bodied me 6-1, 6-1 in less than an hour, he said "Your running forehand was really weak and easy to attack, work on it".

I could have gotten upset or mad, etc, but instead I thought about what he said and he was right. I hadn't realized I lost nearly 14 points on a running forehand...

In my career, one of my managers was probably the least people friendly person I ever met, but he was a professional genius. The sheer amount of expertise I was able to acquire from simply being around him and in meetings with has served me incredibly well. Had I ignored all of that because he was a dick, it would have left me a much worse/ill equipped professional than I am today.

The point of this post is to say that ignored how feedback is given. Seriously who cares. Be an adult and evaluate it and if it makes sense, implement it.



Not sure how old you are or where you live, but in the real world of adults, criticism is one of the most important things in the world, and I ALWAYS accept it from anyone and everyone willing to give it. It makes me stronger.

There is a Hugely gigantic super mega super difference between advice and criticise!!!
Advice you do it with a certain use of words,and with kindness.
Criticise is just toxic... some people gives healthy advices and other just like to feel great by giving orders and make people feel bad.
I as a nice mentor like to advice, other just shoot criticism... my way to interact with players “ in need “ is : Hey, you know that T4 works better on mobs? Hi, please try to use your scatter it works better on 3+ mobs!
Hey “ tank name” please try to use your flash, it will make my job easier <3
Others toxic players: M8 stop ******** using that ***** move. Or,Ooo your are really bad at this job...
This are easy examples of the difference between advice and criticise!!!

Anyway I am almost 30,working since I am 16 because I had too ( I finished college anyway) never appreciate criticism from who doesn’t want actually help but just bossy around, always helping younger colleagues with a smile xD