How to give advice

[JohnSeal]

You're right, and I mean that (not sarcasm). I am working to up my game and I do take pride in being a blm.

Taking pride for being a BLM lmao

Most of people don’t like them because have 0 buff for the party and are lazy to dodge
Most of pugs or statics exclude them from the search me included xD

[Sigma-Astra]

Taking pride for being a BLM lmao

Most of people don’t like them because have 0 buff for the party and are lazy to dodge
Most of pugs or statics exclude them from the search me included xD

...Isn't excluding a certain class that people play due to personal bias also being sort of toxic towards the community at large and just as bad as someone being rude while giving advice...?

I'm stunned that people are still doing this. You can't tell someone to stop being rude with giving advice and then ostracize people within your community. It kind of makes people do a full-stop, 90's record scratch head tilt at you.

[Nixxe]

...Isn't excluding a certain class that people play due to personal bias also being sort of toxic towards the community at large and just as bad as someone being rude while giving advice...?

I'm stunned that people are still doing this. You can't tell someone to stop being rude with giving advice and then ostracize people within your community. It kind of makes people do a full-stop, 90's record scratch head tilt at you.

Excluding jobs based on what they can contribute to your group with respect to other choices is not and never will be toxic it's done for even reasonably competitive or serious content. If you have an issue with it, take it up with whoever is in charge of balancing classes, not other players.

[alimdia]

Excluding jobs based on what they can contribute to your group with respect to other choices is not and never will be toxic it's done for even reasonably competitive or serious content. If you have an issue with it, take it up with whoever is in charge of balancing classes, not other players.

But this thread is not the place to bring that up, no one here is discussing job balance, nothing wrong with someone enjoying BLM.

[Nixxe]

But this thread is not the place to bring that up, no one here is discussing job balance, nothing wrong with someone enjoying BLM.

I never suggested otherwise. I responded to what another poster said. I suggest you do the same, rather than responding to things that weren't said.

[Sigma-Astra]

Excluding jobs based on what they can contribute to your group with respect to other choices is not and never will be toxic it's done for even reasonably competitive or serious content. If you have an issue with it, take it up with whoever is in charge of balancing classes, not other players.

Why on earth would I blame the devs for other people excluding certain jobs because they decided that catering towards themselves and the meta compositions is more important than being a decent human being online and offline?

No, I blame the human being behind the damn screen, not because the developers can sometimes be incompetent. The developers being incompetent is not an excuse to act like a bully towards other who favor certain classes and then ostracize them from said content. They deserve, so long as they bring the skills to back it up, to enjoy any piece of content as any job with the same amount of importance as you do. Any job can do casual and Savage content, I call bs on that. It's the person playing that job that determines that, not the job itself.

If you're ostracizing someone else from your static simply because of the job they play instead of their own skills and effort at playing said job, then yes, you're being rather toxic.

[Bourne_Endeavor]

Why on earth would I blame the devs for other people excluding certain jobs because they decided that catering towards themselves and the meta compositions is more important than being a decent human being online and offline?

No, I blame the human being behind the damn screen, not because the developers can sometimes be incompetent. The developers being incompetent is not an excuse to act like a bully towards other who favor certain classes and then ostracize them from said content. They deserve, so long as they bring the skills to back it up, to enjoy any piece of content as any job with the same amount of importance as you do. Any job can do casual and Savage content, I call bs on that. It's the person playing that job that determines that, not the job itself.

If you're ostracizing someone else from your static simply because of the job they play instead of their own skills and effort at playing said job, then yes, you're being rather toxic.

Unfortunately, we have no way of vetting their skill prior to playing with them. And the sheer number of awful Samurai and Black Mages I have seen do make me hesitant to have one in a random pug group for Savage when their only use is damage. I haven't blocked them outright, but I can't fault people having a bias towards both. They're the only job where if they play lackluster, they contribute nothing.

[Sigma-Astra]

Unfortunately, we have no way of vetting their skill prior to playing with them. And the sheer number of awful Samurai and Black Mages I have seen do make me hesitant to have one in a random pug group for Savage when their only use is damage. I haven't blocked them outright, but I can't fault people having a bias towards both. They're the only job where if they play lackluster, they contribute nothing.

While I can understand your perspectives and viewpoints Bourne, I still don't agree with holding a bias and being judgmental towards the classes themselves simply because you've encountered lackluster players. I've seen some pretty terrible tanks and healers, as well as other DPS, where the only contribution that they made towards the group was death. It's not the job or class that's the problem, it's the player behind it...and why should other people be accounted or suffer for some stranger's mistakes.

[Nixxe]

Why on earth would I blame the devs for other people excluding certain jobs because they decided that catering towards themselves and the meta compositions is more important than being a decent human being online and offline?

No, I blame the human being behind the damn screen, not because the developers can sometimes be incompetent. The developers being incompetent is not an excuse to act like a bully towards other who favor certain classes and then ostracize them from said content. They deserve, so long as they bring the skills to back it up, to enjoy any piece of content as any job with the same amount of importance as you do. Any job can do casual and Savage content, I call bs on that. It's the person playing that job that determines that, not the job itself.

If you're ostracizing someone else from your static simply because of the job they play instead of their own skills and effort at playing said job, then yes, you're being rather toxic.

What's toxic is the sense of entitlement you have towards other people's time and effort, going so far as to say they should decrease their own chance of achieving their goals simply to accommodate yours.

[Vidu]

What's toxic is the sense of entitlement you have towards other people's time and effort, going so far as to say they should decrease their own chance of achieving their goals simply to accommodate yours.

You're obviously to set the rules for your own PF and exclude anyone you want, but I honestly always found it shortsighted to outright stupid to exclude high personal dps, but non supportive jobs like sam or blm.
Maybe I'm biased because my boyfriend mains a BLM and is pretty amazing at that, but whenever we saw a primal-farm group excluding BLM we felt sorry for them because they just passed on a solid "going to beat enrage"-player.

Midcore players trying to enforce a meta, because they believe thats whats gonna make them hardcore or good (or better) at the game, missed the mark. You can clear any content in the game without the meta and without locking jobs out. (Was it UCoB or UwU that was beat with a non-meta-set-up, including a DRK, pretty close to world first? I think it was UCoB...)

Again: You have the right to lock out jobs, if you want to. Or lalafell. Or anyone who picked the Twin Adders as GC.
But to colour every BLM/SAM with the same brush, maybe because of bad experience or just because of stuff you've heard, seems rather unfair and, well, shortsighted to me.
Enforcing the meta, locking out jobs or asking for "no double jobs!" in content where the LB doesnt matter as much/will fill fast enough for when you need it anyways (so basically anything except Byakko EX, if you want to "cheese" it) doesnt make you pro. To me it mainly shows that you didnt understand that much about the game after all.

I can assure you: BLM and SAM can clear content in the game just as much as every other job can. And even a support-heavy bard will hold the group back, if the player behind it, isnt skilled enough. Its far more about the players skill, than the job - crit-buffs and mana-regens can only make up for so much.
Locking out jobs because you had bad experiences with people playing those jobs or heard things about the "meta" or how those jobs suck, seems rather prejudiced to me.
But you do you - just know that not every BLM/SAM is out there to waste other peoples time or decrease their chances of clearing fights. When properly played, they're pretty good at ensuring that the party meets their goal of killing a thing, since thats what they're best at.