Also you say "if they want to worry where they end up they can read the updates like everyone else and act accordingly!". Why would they do that?
I say this because it is really their responsibility to keep tabs on their character/game if they really care about it. Square Enix usually sends me emails to the account I signed up with when something "big" is happening. I am not defending SE per say, I don't agree with them just throwing characters who are inactive on random servers...but really people should also take some initiative to take care of their own things.