Quote Originally Posted by QT_Melon View Post
Yeah, the short term isn't working. Hasn't been working for decades now. It just bred a culture that women should fear men. Sorry if you know I'd like it stopped where we stop looking at men as possible rapists. As I said before a lot of this advice so after the fact it's ridiculous. You tell pregnant women "well don't have sex" Instead of looking to see what avenues to look at for the future of a possible child?

So you'll excuse my general frustration on rhetoric that does nothing when the damage is done, and keep asking people to talk about how we can change what to do about it. "Well it's hard, so I'm gonna go back on my *insert hindsight* excuse" Then try to claim "hey you're trying to shut down my speech" No, I'm asking you to think outside the box for a bit and talk about solutions going forward instead of dwelling on the past. Is it hard. OF COURSE but I'd like to believe you're an intelligent enough person to engage in this.
The past is what will help mitigate issues in the future until we can find a solution that removes the problem completely. Why must it be one or the other? WE can easily do both and that is what I am saying. Maybe I am not expressing myself clearly, but not sure why you seem as frustrated as you do. I am not undermined or belittling the experience of those who have been impacted by such things. Is telling people to protect themselves so wrong? As for your pregnant example, like I mentioned everything we do comes it an inherent risk factor and only you (general you) can determine if that risk factor is worth it, and see what you should do to mitigate the risk factors. Still understanding that something could go wrong and you could end up pregnant. Is that really so wrong?