Sexual harassment

[BillyKaplan]

part of the way of preventively dealing with abuse is for you to be sure to protect yourself first by not rushing into a relationship without taking a long time to build trust.

But that's exactly what abusers do. That's the text-book method of operation. It's even there in the news article and was part of the guy's modus operandi. The only way to prevent that is never to enter a relationship with anyone ever.

I just really want to entreat people to protect themselves.

Most often, by the time you realize you're in an abusive relationship it's far too late for that. Again, it's part of how those people operate and why it's so hard to break away from those situations.

[RiyahArp]

Most often, by the time you realize you're in an abusive relationship it's far too late for that. Again, it's part of how those people operate and why it's so hard to break away from those situations.

A lot of talk like this is well meaning, but it strips agency from people. I mean, you can set up boundaries and tender trust accordingly. There are things you can do not to be vulnerable; they aren't foolproof, but nothing is. And sometimes it means being strong enough to say no when they break those boundaries. It's just...well, there are a lot of lonely and hurting people out there who jump at the chance, oblivious to their own safety. You have to be careful who you give intimacy to.