Sexual harassment

[Bourne_Endeavor]

Want to know how to avoid sexual harassment? You'd be surprised to know that telling someone to fuck off and blocking them shortly after comes in handy. Don't give them time to retort or sweeten you into making you stay. It's the internet. They can't do anything to you. Don't know why it's so hard.

Spoken like someone who has little to no understanding how emotional abuse works. People like this don't show their hand immediately. They befriend you, make you believe their own sob stories. Imagine a good friend of yours suddenly being a jerk; not overly aggressive at first, just moody and combative. Would it still be as easy to cut ties instantly? You seem to still be living in the last decade where online relationships, be they friendships or romance are somehow less impactful than real life ones.

[MoroMurasaki]

You have no right to decide if I have any understanding of it or not. I was emotionally abused once and I learned from it instead of letting myself be a victim. And no, it would not. If you treat me like dogshit then you have no right to stay in my life anymore because I value my rights as I have stated before.

The point Cass is making is that not everyone has such an easy time cutting people out of their lives. It's great that you have the confidence and determination to protect yourself, I am glad to hear it, but expecting everyone else to be able to handle situations that may be similar to yours in the same way is very narrow minded.

[Enla]

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Except it spilled over into real life, which is outlined pretty clearly in the article?

https://www.pcgamer.com/prominent-fi...a-dozen-women/

[Enla]

Well, I mean... was still her decision to live with him in the first place after being emotionally abused lol. Not much else to it broski. I feel for her, but a lot of it could've been prevented.

Emotional abuse is often hard to see when you're in the thick of it. It took a family member actively walking out on his wife for her to finally clear through the fog and start seeing what we all could see plain as day. That same wife still refuses to see another family member as abusive in spite of being hit, emotional abused on the weekly over the phone, and having wine bottles thrown at them when they're in contact. It's /not/ that simple to get out of it, and while I very much applaud you for escaping your own abuser, you really have no right to decide what other people can and cannot take either. Everyone is different and everyone has different thresholds that can be exploited. You can criticize them all you like, but at the end of the day they /aren't you/ and you /aren't them/.

[KaivaC]

@zale Assuming that this story is 100% true, did it not occur to you that perhaps they probably do know each other's real names and maybe some history? It's clear in at least one of the stories that there were pictures exchanged. This goes beyond gaming. Should pictures have been exchanged? Probably not. But hindsight exists because you can't take it back.