I know what you mean. I actually really hate it when people dont show up and I would never lead a static for those reasons. I'm usually quiet during raid as I prefer concentration and in the event drama happens I dont want to talk to people that start it. Whether it's healing, dps, etc is just annoying. I play a certain way and that is the role of aggressive healer. I've been told a few times to change my playstyle and I refused and said this is my playstyle I'll only heal when there are checks up because there's no point in healing when no damage is going up. I dont really have to communicate this to my other healer as well cause we have different styles of play and that's clear. Some prefer healing and minimal dps. Some prefer dps and only healing for checks IE: earthly star. putting up shields, and only really healing when there's too much damage going on. A good healer understands when and when not to heal and when to dps. It became an issue in some of my groups sometimes and i'm glad I left those because I will never be told to adapt to x healing playstyle when my own is far better. Anyway, the best advice I could give you is to just get a new group or kick the person who started the excuses. Sometimes it is better to burn bridges for the clear but if the person is a close friend you'll need to talk it out with them beforehand and say they are letting down the group. Statics can be extremely difficult but savage isnt excatly impossible to pug as I got my first clears in pug every fight this tier.