Quote Originally Posted by HyoMinPark View Post
the leader has to let themselves be a leader as opposed to always trying to be a friend to everyone. I have also known static leaders like that, and it never spells anything good for the group trying to be everyone’s buddy as opposed to making the tough decisions one has to make when they are in a leadership position (e.g., someone no-shows to raid for two months straight, and the leader refuses to kick them because they’re friends, and instead forces the group to PUG a member each week...which may or may not go smoothly; this is a true story). And it is also the reason why I do not want to be a static leader, because I would function very much the same, and I don’t think that would be healthy for the life of the group.
This is why when I go to make a new static, I am employing a strict and equal 3 strike rule. If you hit 3 strikes I will say "Right, you're at 3 strikes now, GL in the future, I am kicking you." - I don't care if this makes me a lot of enemies (I have them in abundance in this game already, what's a few more gonna do? The stresses of the last static I lead which had friends in has resulted in problems showing elsewhere, and I have lost several friends over it (and am having to move realms once my house demolishes so I can get a clean break). This new static, I am not sure if I should try to remain friends with people who leave/are removed from the static, since I am scared of a repeat of what happened last time. Static members are simply colleagues. I am the manager, which means I have to take a zero tolerance approach.