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Q: Please change the current feature where deleting a friend from my list will still have my name appear in the deleted friend's name list

A: This is a delicate issue because the opponent will be shocked if we are to implement deletion on both sides. We cannot guarantee this will not cause any problems here which is why we have this current feature right now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ffxiv/comme..._the_32nd_pll/