Mod users in FFXIV are getting out of control

[HyoMinPark]

It..well, it can be more complicated than that.

I remember times when a harasser would try to get people to actually tell the person harassed to avoid the blacklist, dragging more people into it and constantly raising the stakes and the amount of power you need to use. And a lot of people in the scene can be incredibly charming or charismatic, and then it happens and everything goes south. I think the worst experience i ever had was someone with borderline personality disorder literally turning the entire guild i was in against me and wearing people down by sheer madness. It depends on the person, but yeah, you generally are not so rational after a major issue; you simply can't be, because you know how high the stakes are sometimes. I wonder if OP has suffered anything to have this reaction. Like sometimes it can be overreaction, but sometimes sheer safety reflex.

Immediately after a traumatic experience, no, you are usually not that rational. I speak from experience. But you gain rationality over time; you gain the ability to discern when things truly are “going south”. You cannot live in a constant fear that “[event] happened to me before; it will surely happen to me again, so I must always be on my guard” or “I met bad people before; I will surely meet them again, so I should protect myself/I should assume everyone is like that/I should trust no one”. Because, again, my main issue with the OP is that they are generalizing, and spreading fear where there is no need to spread it. The same for the individuals that got all up in arms about this on Tumblr.

I’m not saying that people should not be cautious; I am saying that they should stop letting things control them—their reactions, their behavior, the way they live. I’ve had terrible things happen to me in real-life—not in this game. I don’t let them control me because it is far too exhausting to live that way.