Social Anxiety

[NolLacnala]

[CaptainCorgi]

Buh...thank you all for the friendly replies >.<. I suppose just forcing myself into things with small steps would help out some? I...really really dunno how to reply here, but it makes me feel a little more confident that people are being nice.

Just...bweh....thank you all, and sorry. >.<

[sarehptar]

Buh...thank you all for the friendly replies >.<. I suppose just forcing myself into things with small steps would help out some? I...really really dunno how to reply here, but it makes me feel a little more confident that people are being nice.

Just...bweh....thank you all, and sorry. >.<

Yeah, I think that's really the best way to go about it. Any time you want something to change in your life, it's going to mean going out of your comfort zone a bit, so if you just start small with the easiest things like popping a message or two into the chat each day, that will be a step in the right direction.

It will always start out hard, but once you start doing something routinely, it will get easier! Good luck out there!

[ExKage]

I'm sure there are others who will say something similar (and some have), OP are you me?

Joking aside, I've been there. I once was asked by a former static raid mate to sub in for their caster dps in T8 before Savage and Duty Finder. I had only cleared T6 and was in between statics to work on T7 etc. During that one raid session I couldn't speak and I had literal tears running through my face and my leg shook like crazy. I honestly shouldn't have said yes but I came away from it feeling better even though I had all that self doubt, imposter syndrome, etc etc etc. I didn't want to embarrass my former raid mate or myself by underperforming or messing up. It went well and I ended up finding a group that needed a caster DPS for their T6-T7. I have issues putting myself out there but I'm not at the point where I'm physically feeling that anxiety come out.

If you keep taking the small steps to build your self esteem and your confidence, it'll get better. Playing this game with friends and progressing through content is one of the most enjoyable things out there. It takes time and effort but the reward is worth it.

[-Lilia-]

Im diagnosed with it. So I completely understand. Im moreso like this when people want to voicechat with me. My anxiety gets so bad, my heart beats like theres no tomorrow which makes it hard for me to be myself because Im thinking too much about my shaky voice. Chat-wise I have gotten so used to it now! But Im like you. Ive actually gone from group to group to group and more groups lol. Its tiring and lonely because I think I crave people to like me and I do everything I can to keep them in my life. It especially hurts when that doesnt go to plan, like you know when you finally feel comfortable and open up, joke with people. And then all of a sudden they stop talking to you... its the worst feeling. Iv got tough skin now. Having a mindset like- people come and go, its not you its them. As long as I am pushing myself thats all that matters.

[-Lilia-]

Im also gay (trap) btw not that it matters but I feel sometimes that makes it hard too, to fit in. Iv server swapped idk how many times because of my anxiety. I kept wanting to start again (and again). No more running for me. Things arent as bad as anxiety lets us think! We must control our anxiety, and not let it control us. Relax. We are all safe here. And I would definitely be your friend! ^-^/

[Nerfworthy]

No, I play this game to get away from social anxiety IRL.

[CaptainCorgi]

But Im like you. Ive actually gone from group to group to group and more groups lol. Its tiring and lonely because I think I crave people to like me and I do everything I can to keep them in my life. It especially hurts when that doesnt go to plan, like you know when you finally feel comfortable and open up, joke with people. And then all of a sudden they stop talking to you... its the worst feeling. Iv got tough skin now. Having a mindset like- people come and go, its not you its them. As long as I am pushing myself thats all that matters.

I'm glad I'm not alone on the whole moving from group to group thingy. Someone pointed me to an FC, one of the biggest on Adamantoise afaik, and I joined, got scared, left, felt like a butt, rejoined ect ect. Same with another one on this character. It really really sucks and I don't want people to take it the wrong way.

Either way, definitely appreciate the input. Same with everyone else :>

[Nedkel]

You need to know what YOLO stands for. :P

Just yolo into the FC, none know who are you anyway, no consequences there are.

[Jellybums]

Oh, don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with you. I met a lot of people on here who say they have social anxiety. But I never noticed 'cause they seem normal to me when we talk. Just go with what you're comfortable with. Don't worry about stuff. You're at your best when you're not all too conscious of yourself at all.