Social Anxiety

[CaptainCorgi]

But Im like you. Ive actually gone from group to group to group and more groups lol. Its tiring and lonely because I think I crave people to like me and I do everything I can to keep them in my life. It especially hurts when that doesnt go to plan, like you know when you finally feel comfortable and open up, joke with people. And then all of a sudden they stop talking to you... its the worst feeling. Iv got tough skin now. Having a mindset like- people come and go, its not you its them. As long as I am pushing myself thats all that matters.

I'm glad I'm not alone on the whole moving from group to group thingy. Someone pointed me to an FC, one of the biggest on Adamantoise afaik, and I joined, got scared, left, felt like a butt, rejoined ect ect. Same with another one on this character. It really really sucks and I don't want people to take it the wrong way.

Either way, definitely appreciate the input. Same with everyone else :>

[-Lilia-]

Im also gay (trap) btw not that it matters but I feel sometimes that makes it hard too, to fit in. Iv server swapped idk how many times because of my anxiety. I kept wanting to start again (and again). No more running for me. Things arent as bad as anxiety lets us think! We must control our anxiety, and not let it control us. Relax. We are all safe here. And I would definitely be your friend! ^-^/

[Nerfworthy]

No, I play this game to get away from social anxiety IRL.

[Nedkel]

You need to know what YOLO stands for. :P

Just yolo into the FC, none know who are you anyway, no consequences there are.

[Jellybums]

Oh, don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with you. I met a lot of people on here who say they have social anxiety. But I never noticed 'cause they seem normal to me when we talk. Just go with what you're comfortable with. Don't worry about stuff. You're at your best when you're not all too conscious of yourself at all.

[MagiusNecros]

I hate socializing with people and it takes me time to get comfortable with people I selectively like so I can sympathize with people with social anxiety. It's especially hard when you enjoy a MMO but don't have much energy to deal with people. I personally choose those I wish to become friends with for a long time. Not some fleeting fancy for a month or two. I prefer to establish strong connections of comradeship and friendship. Which is rare to come by.

And I'd rather discuss things people are interested in rather then waste their time.

[Elamys]

I would say so, yeah. I went between groups of people for a long time in WoW and it wasn't until fairly recently that I found a group of people I was comfortable with.

[Heart-of-Asia]

I played FFXI for over 10 years and had really loved playing with others. After adult onset of inattentive ADHD and depression I've found I had social anxiety IRL and it started creeping into the game maybe a year into playing FFXIV. Now the game is unplayable to me right now due to the fact I feel I can't catch up. I have a massive back log of games I quit playing because I felt it was getting "too hard" due to my inattentive ADHD. Not saying that is what you have but maybe look into it? It goes hand in hand with my social anxiety. I still play FFXIV but I just craft and not talk to anyone. If I didn't have a house, I'd quit for good. I really want to play with others but my anxiety keeps me from playing with people.

[Netheren]

Someone long ago once told me that most people walk around thinking about their own stuff, how they appeared to others, that its very rare for anyone to actually fully notice you.

Don't get the idea in your head before any social interaction that anyone even gives 2 shts about you because chances are you will be forgotten, just like me and anyone else.

So with that in mind, entering any social action becomes easy, because you will only be noticed by those worth you noticing. Akin to the whole picture everyone naked, but closer to the truth than that really, because we all think about our own stuff more.

[TitaniaYaerem]

In order to cope with my social anxiety, I actually create an online persona and get into character. I used to roleplay a lot and took on several types of characters and roles, so in order to be able to write out roleplays I pretty much became a character outside of what I normally was. Am I not being the real me? No. But it allows me to comfortably talk to people or at least put myself out there. When I went to meet up with FC mates in Fanfest they pretty much all said I was completely different. I come off confident online but in real life I'm actually a wallflower that pretty much shrinks down around people.