Wish you could stay in ffxiv (it's the best mmorpg there is). The ffxiv community is actually the best I've see. Sadly you probably found a streak of jerks in most/all your duties. Normally in ffxiv people are helpful and teach boss mechanics (though I've noticed an attitude recently where people have stopped teaching boss fights which is something I always fight against and should be called out).

Hope you give ffxiv another chance, the community is more good than bad. The bad apples are few in general, compared to most mmos.