Sad experiences of a newbie

[Cherrytop]

I'm new to this game, I've played maybe total 30 days and I love it. I love the mechanics, I love the looks, the feel, the fashion.

But I'm probably not gonna come back to this game.

I've always mained healers, it's the role I enjoy the most. And as a healer I'm used to getting blamed for wipes. But in all the years I've played, I have never had such consistently horrible experiences doing group content as I have in FF14 in the past two weeks.

In almost every dungeon I've been doing I have had abuse hurled at me. What was said to me was directed at me specifically, it was personal and targeted. I get it, it's video game, but there is another person there. Like I said, I'm generally used to this and sometimes engage in cheeky banter too, but what I've been experiencing was just downright vicious and really exhausting.

I'm gonna let my sub lapse, only a few days left anyway.

(I just want to vent my frustration. Thread can be locked and blasted into void.)

[Kai_Lee]

Sucks to hear that, I typically let newbies with the sprout icon a lot of leeway and generally offer help when needed.

[Squintina]

If you want to do that, it's a perfectly valid decision and I wish you the best.

But here's another suggestion Transfer to Faerie, come join the FC I'm in. We'll do dungeon runs together and no one will be vicious I promise.

[Jijifli]

Is it okay if I ask what they were getting what you for?

Of course these guys are bad for harassing you in the first place, but I just want to see if there's a consistent theme we can work on. Trust me it gets better later on. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[Joe777]

It does indeed suck but it isn't, sadly, uncommon for some people to get the truly bad apples in pugs. There are 2 things you can do about this:

1. Report the player(s) for their abuse. If they are griefing you then you have every right to report them for it when you are not in the wrong.
2. Find a static group to play with that isn't so abusive. Your server's Novice Network, a Free Company, some friends, anyone you can find willing to go with you where you need to would work.

[Chronons]

*shrugs* Not enough evidence to know whether it was warranted or not.

Regardless, its always sad to see people go. Hope you give the game another chance in the future.

[ManuelBravo]

Sorry to hear that, it normally is a good game depending on your area trolls are to be expected in any online game. best thing to say is..." I'm new deal with it " Have fun, if you communicate most are friendly, if it's a tank and they over pull after you warn them it's more of poor tanking, in that case I would response...."Even a newbie knows not to over pull after they have been warn.." that always gets to them :P HOWEVER IF YOU DID NoT COMMUNICATE YOU DESERVED IT.

I sympathize for newbies, however I don't tolerate failing to communicate. If that was the case need to learn to speak up pls. ^^

Also have you done the newbie training hall?

Have you asked for advice?

PLS tell me you did not use a level up potion. IF you did you have to earn the experience to really get it together. Practice your rotation in fates or focus on low level dungeons to practice, it could be a pain but the more you practice the better.

Use the Job guide, learn your rotation and cool downs....

Lastly...ASK FOR HELP... people will gladly help those who ask for it.

[Cherrytop]

But here's another suggestion Transfer to Faerie, come join the FC I'm in. We'll do dungeon runs together and no one will be vicious I promise.

I play on EU and tend to go for very populated servers (I don't like waiting for my queues for very long), I actually have no idea if queueing in this game is cross-server or not.

Is it okay if I ask what they were getting what you for?

I'm used to more traditional healing model - me, a healer, just heal. From the garbage thrown my way I gathered I'm supposed to dps too. Apparently for most people I healed too little, dps'd too little, then healed too little, then dps'd too little... you get the idea. I admit, I'm a slow learner, and learning how to juggle healing, dps and buffs (I decided to focus on astrologian) is tough for me, since I don't get a lot of time to play in general.

[Jijifli]

I'm used to more traditional healing model - me, a healer, just heal. From the garbage thrown my way I gathered I'm supposed to dps too. Apparently for most people I healed too little, dps'd too little, then healed too little, then dps'd too little... you get the idea. I admit, I'm a slow learner, and learning how to juggle healing, dps and buffs (I decided to focus on astrologian) is tough for me, since I don't get a lot of time to play in general.

Healer dps can be helpful and I do encourage it (ABC, Always Be Casting,) but it sounds like they took it too much to heart. I do recommend seeing where you can fit in at least dots and try to go from there, but if you can't it's not that huge of a concern. If you have access to the Novice Network, you can ask for assistance too in there, since people are willing to help. You'll get the hang of how it works on this game eventually, I'll admit healers getting room to dps is a throw off to people used to traditional "If I stop casting heals he dies."

[M0rty]

Wow that sucks. I'm a newbie myself and I've not experienced that even when I deserved it(I wiped my party several times when fighting Titan but the group was being nice about it).
Maybe you can switch worlds to a less populated one or join a FC?