Honestly, you really need to hit level-cap (lvl. 70) with all the tanks and play all of them in end-game content to be able to really feel where the different jobs are lacking or shine in comparison to each other.
Playing the jobs under level-cap is only playing part of the job so it doesn't really present the full picture of how the job plays and functions.
On top of that, if you only have experience with say one tank job, it's really hard to judge how it compares to the others since firsthand experience is not there and you are required to go off of what others say.
As for why DRK is currently considered the worst of the tank jobs, the following are the reasons that are most often given.
- It does the least amount of damage of all the tanks. Not a crazy amount less, but it is somewhat noticeable.
- It has the weakest defensive kit, seeming to be at least one defensive cooldown short of what the other tanks have.
- It has the least amount of party/group utility since the one ability it has is limited to single targets as opposed to potentially affecting the whole party.
- It has the worst self-healing potential.
- It has the greatest number of abilities that feel effectively useless , virtually pointless or extremely underwhelming.
For me, my biggest gripe with DRK is that it currently feels disjointed to play, like a puzzle missing a piece right in the middle or a chain missing a link to connect it's two halves.
Basically it just feels like something is missing to feel and flow "right" when playing it. This isn't a feeling I get when I play as PLD or WAR.
Oh and having to double-weave with Dark Arts, not a fan of that.
As for MP management, it's really not that bad and you just need to get used to it as part of playing DRK. It's way easier now to manage at a base level compared to in Heavensward where Darkside would constantly drain MP and then turn itself off when you ran out.
Anyways, as Wintersandman said there are going to be tank changes coming with the 4.2 patch at the end of this month, so we will see what happens with those.