Quote Originally Posted by MoroMurasaki View Post
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The problem is that you've made a declaration that any example I provide is not 'toxic' as an absolute. You're not leaving any room for personal interpretation of those comments, and I'm kind of surprised you can't see how someone might not enjoyed being labeled lazy or entitled by someone who barely knows them.

I mean, let's look at it from another perspective:

Let's say you're at a party and see someone new and think about trying to go meet them. Your friend who's with you informs you they before having met you, this new person told your friend he thought you were lazy/stuck-up/etc (based solely on appearance or maybe catching part of a conversation you were having in passing). Would you be eager to invest more time with that person? Even if you personally could work through that, could you at least see where someone else might not be so willing, especially if they have other people around/things to do to invest that energy in instead? And it's not even about being easily offended. I think being a bit defensive towards people who make such a broad, negative judgement about you with no real knowledge about you as an individual is just about self care.