Had 202 on Bodhum just now.

You need to play the game w/ the assumption that nothing is going to happen other then 1 week of fun w/ patches until 2.0. Expecting literally ANY form of satisfaction from FF14 aside from what I just mentioned will result in utter disappointment.

There are hundreds of interesting forums, chatrooms, livestreams w/ tons of people chatting all around the clock about video games. You'd have to try really hard to feel lonely on the internet.

This is just a solution to your issue, no need to move to a diff server, because it's probably going to be the same thing wherever you go.