Quote Originally Posted by TitaniaYaerem View Post
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Similar situation for me also when I played on Hyperion. Got so feed up with the situation I was put in by the FC leader and so-called friends that I just finally up and left the server for Balmung. Still had a fair share of problems on Balmung at the start but over time through friendly chatter I've met some pretty decent people. One who I can proudly say has become a very close friend.

I tend to be on the not talking at all to light chatter side and very rarely do I just walk up to someone and start a conversation. In fact by the end of last year, I was trying to avoid people left and right. Didn't want to get to know anyone, didn't want friends, etc. Anxiety of being stuck in a bad situation overruled. Think it was back in Nov of last year, I left a FC on Balmung where I got trapped between some feud between the FC leader and her boyfriend. I was quick to realize both were psycho and left the FC. Horrible mess that was and made me not want to trust anyone even more.

But funny enough - Christmas eve night I took a chance and started talking to another player who I took a liking to. Was a total dork about it. I was anxious beyond belief and sent like this crazy random /tell at the end of the night and logged out before he could answer. I though, "My my god he's never going to speak to me again. Must think I'm crazy." Short of the story: Christmas day, he sent me a friend request the moment I logged in and since then, we've done everything together in the game and he's helped me a lot and via. We've just been close friends ever since.

So yeah, all it takes is a bit of stepping out of your shell. It hard I know because you may feel like you'll just end up in another bad situation. When I look back and think about it had I not taken that chance that night I'd maybe missed out on the chance of never having that person as such a close friend now. And maybe even had quit this game some months ago.