The don't ask, don't tell policy is kinda silly in my opinion. I'd go copy paste what I said in another thread but essentially there are two different sets of people who can play FFXIV. Those who play on PC and have the option to check their DPS and can either do so or not, and those who play on PS4 and just don't have that option. SE really should consider implementing parsers for PS4 if only because it kinda sucks if you are stuck on the wrong side of the demographic and want to improve or just... Know.

They have rules about harassment, they should just enforce them. At the same time people should be allowed to be honest about what's wrong with people in the group.

If I'm in a Shinryu party playing MCH and I don't have a parser, when someone kicks me out of the blue I'm going to be upset because I thought I was pulling my weight. I popped refresh when needed, managed my aggro, debuffed the things worth debuffing. I'd rightly be upset about the fact that I was removed from that party. As-is, the person running that party who is parsing has no way of telling me why I had to go. 2.3k DPS as a MCH in Shinryu is kinda bad, and they know that it wouldn't be hard to do better but if you open your mouth a GM might just put their foot in it for good measure.

There are people on the OF who say they'll literally report someone on the spot if they have the slightest inclination that they're parsing basically on principle. Do they say 'you need to work on your rotation' and risk someone reporting them for their not-so-cryptic words? What's the right choice?

For not getting banned? Just silently kicking people and moving on. That seems kinda meh to me.