On toxicity in forums

[Colino]

Yeah so what, what's your problem dude? Looking for a fight? huh? *bangs chest*

[KalinOrthos]

Yeah so what, what's your problem dude? Looking for a fight? huh? *bangs chest*

I think this calls for fisticuffs! Have at you, sir!

[Sylvina]

I think this calls for fisticuffs! Have at you, sir!

Let's settle this MANO EL MANO!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urryAQPd82Y

[KalinOrthos]

Let's settle this MANO EL MANO!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urryAQPd82Y

After my own heart. <3

[Colino]

I think this calls for fisticuffs! Have at you, sir!

Against horns like that? Hells no! I say we duel instead, and I shall initiate this by removing my glove and smacking you with it! ... That is if you bring your face down to my slapping range please.

[KalinOrthos]

Against horns like that? Hells no! I say we duel instead, and I shall initiate this by removing my glove and smacking you with it! ... That is if you bring your face down to my slapping range please.

Pardon, what's that? I can't hear you from up here, you'll have to speak up. My shins aren't my face.

[Lalafallen]

While I'm not really active in the forum in general and thus not getting in a lot of arguments, I still see where you come from. I wouldn't call certain things "toxicity" per se, but rather a lack of knowing how to express one's opinion in a constructive manner - even though you don't agree with a person. After all it's so much easier to address an issue just with "I hate this or that idea, that is so stupid!" than finding and expression reasons for why someone doesn't agree with the other person.

I don't really want to blame people who behave like that to be honest, sometimes we just have a bad day and/or just get annoyed by the "weird" idea someone has and just want to express that. I often caugh myself doing that too, but before I even start writing I ask myself: "Can't I spend this minute more productive than writing an angry sentence how stupid someone and their idea is?" Yeah, I know, it's only a minute, but which is better: Making some tea/grabbing your favorite food/watching a cat video on youtube or attacking someone online, even though they and their ideas won't really matter in your life?

I know it's not always rainbows, unicorns and butterflies and it never will be, but most of the time there are definitely better and nicer ways for both sides to communicate over a problem. If you really want to express your opinion in a way that might be toxic, go ahead - but don't be surprised that the other side gets really defensive and thus making your day at least a little worse.