Quote Originally Posted by Tsumdere View Post
Playing into stereotypes such as "men have to be the first to ask out" just harms your self-esteem and hurts you in the long run.

I don't really agree with this as a blanket statement - there are certainly girls (myself included) who enjoy a guy who makes the first move. I think a lot of people (again guilty of this myself) have responded to this thread with advice tailored to what they find attractive about themselves or others.

In a way this is good, OP gets to see a lot of perspectives, but other than basic things like being confident and secure in yourself I don't think that a lot of advice on this subject is universal. Some girls like to be doted on, some will get annoyed if you so much as hold a door open for them. Some guys best bet is to get their foot in the door with their looks, others need to show off how smart or sensitive they are. These are all valid approaches to attracting and retaining a partner but they don't all apply to every situation