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  1. 09-29-2017 12:17 PM #1
    Tsumdere
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    Playing into stereotypes such as "men have to be the first to ask out" just harms your self-esteem and hurts you in the long run.

    Go out there and make friends. Women who like you will make it obvious. Women who don't... will just be friends. Nothing is more annoying than a man (or woman) who badgers you for a relationship when you have shown zero interest. Besides, using the friend method can lead you to an unexpected relationship with someone who you never imagined you would love in the first place.
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  2. 09-29-2017 02:28 PM #2
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsumdere View Post
    Playing into stereotypes such as "men have to be the first to ask out" just harms your self-esteem and hurts you in the long run.

    I don't really agree with this as a blanket statement - there are certainly girls (myself included) who enjoy a guy who makes the first move. I think a lot of people (again guilty of this myself) have responded to this thread with advice tailored to what they find attractive about themselves or others.

    In a way this is good, OP gets to see a lot of perspectives, but other than basic things like being confident and secure in yourself I don't think that a lot of advice on this subject is universal. Some girls like to be doted on, some will get annoyed if you so much as hold a door open for them. Some guys best bet is to get their foot in the door with their looks, others need to show off how smart or sensitive they are. These are all valid approaches to attracting and retaining a partner but they don't all apply to every situation
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  3. 09-29-2017 06:50 PM #3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tsumdere View Post
    Nothing is more annoying than a man (or woman) who badgers you for a relationship when you have shown zero interest.
    100% this. If you come off as seeming almost desperate to be in a relationship, that can be very off-putting for people, men and women alike. I'm not into the whole dating thing, never really had much interest, but I've had friends on here who had 'feelings' for me before, and its just awkward when they keep trying to push you for something you're not interested in.

    Just take your time, meet someone and be friends first. See where it goes.
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