I might sound a little harsh,but I mean well. In your current situation, its not going to happen. You have low self esteem and im going to assume by your character name that youre not very social in real life to put it mildly.

If you want to attract a partner, you have to put yourself out there. Humans are just animals, and thats how animals do it. They go out and show themselves off. What you need to do is invest in yourself.

Are you depressed? Go see a therapist. Are you out of shape? Join a gym and lift weights. Get a haircut. Buy some new clothes. Take the time to find a cologne that suits you. This will not only make you look better. More importantly: this will make you feel good. And if you socialize feeling like a million dollars, people will notice. Because you'll radiate confidence, you'll have a smile on your face. You will look like someone people will want to get to know.

And thats the next important thing. Go out and socialize. Get noticed. Start going out. Do you have friends? Go out for drinks on the weekends. I actually like the challenge of going out by myself to clubs and bars ive never been before. I sit down at the bar, start chatting with the bartender(s) and see how it goes from there. Its a great way to meet new people. Every place I go to is a new shot at making a first impression.

Also, join activities. Could be anything that remotely interests you. Ive volunteered for cleaning up garbage on the beach and met alot of people. Theres a group of volunteers that takes elderly people in a retirement home out for wheelchair rides. Im thinking about applying for that. Why? It allows me to meet new people, and it makes me feel good about myself.

A colleague of mine is a member of a group thats actually called "meeting new people" and I met a bunch of them when I went to a beer tasting event with him. They were allpretty decent people and I could tell that some had the same struggles as you. They were a bit awkward, but they were on the right track!

Long story short, you need to work on your confidence and go out and socialize. And THEN you can start actively looking for a partner. Otherwise youll just get more depressed and frustrated. Turn that downward spiral upside down!

/psych