You need to set the need to finding a partner aside for now and focus on other things. When people are in your position, they wind up focusing on it too much and it begins to affect their overall health and happiness. Like you said, you are acting on desperation. That's not really attractive at all. If you can distract yourself with other things, like doing stuff with your FC, it will take you mind off of it and will improve your overall happiness. And if you present yourself as a happier person, people will eventually notice and things will start to happen when you least expect it.