Dating & Romance Rant

[Cyreil]

You need to set the need to finding a partner aside for now and focus on other things. When people are in your position, they wind up focusing on it too much and it begins to affect their overall health and happiness. Like you said, you are acting on desperation. That's not really attractive at all. If you can distract yourself with other things, like doing stuff with your FC, it will take you mind off of it and will improve your overall happiness. And if you present yourself as a happier person, people will eventually notice and things will start to happen when you least expect it.

[MyaValentine]

lmao I would not expect to see these sort of topics around here, I guess I can add 2 cents but it all depends from person to person anyways listen there's no secret formula to get a girl is not a rotation you can learn the only way you can develop that skill just like anything in life is by practicing, talk to other people in person talk more often chat more often as cliche as it's you just gotta be yourself (until certain point) do use it as an excuse to do negative things. more importanly my little man you gotta give it some balls don't think it twice just do it. good luck.

[Musashidon]

i see your problem, if you just edited your first post you could have fit all 5 posts in one.

[DarksiderAlpha]

I too was looking for romance , a irl girl palying a cute femmale miqo'te got no where and felt like giving up trying hard to socialze and mingle, but also overlooked ike i was invisable, i was kind and helpful got calle cute and so nice person that anyone would be lucky to have me. But i did meet someone and they were amazing and i made them feel happy and and them me, for once in my life i felt alive , we had ups and downs , then a friend wanted to marry in game and i hadnt fully opened my feelings to them , was too scred to tell them my feelings was shy, we would marry after but as soon as i said yes, the guilt triped my love into trying to leave me my lover was getting strssed but didnt want to upset them, then after 3 days of tying to get them to stop they changed and as nice and sweet and charming, saying they loved them they needed them, they still gotmarried, and then they got just wanted them to themselves and i found out they were a anctual sociapth, my ex now said they knew they had told them, i felt them slipping away, then after tey said they will fix it, just dumped me. I was in pieces, be alone all my life apart from living with family, then to oose soemthimg amnazing due to someones greed. I hope to find some like them again, a cute female cat who play almost everyday all day who whould want something more than a fun ingame thing. But many only want that.

[TattersailNightwish]

I too was looking for romance , a irl girl palying a cute femmale miqo'te got no where and felt like giving up trying hard to socialze and mingle, but also overlooked ike i was invisable, i was kind and helpful got calle cute and so nice person that anyone would be lucky to have me. But i did meet someone and they were amazing and i made them feel happy and and them me, for once in my life i felt alive , we had ups and downs , then a friend wanted to marry in game and i hadnt fully opened my feelings to them , was too scred to tell them my feelings was shy, we would marry after but as soon as i said yes, the guilt triped my love into trying to leave me my lover was getting strssed but didnt want to upset them, then after 3 days of tying to get them to stop they changed and as nice and sweet and charming, saying they loved them they needed them, they still gotmarried, and then they got just wanted them to themselves and i found out they were a anctual sociapth, my ex now said they knew they had told them, i felt them slipping away, then after tey said they will fix it, just dumped me. I was in pieces, be alone all my life apart from living with family, then to oose soemthimg amnazing due to someones greed. I hope to find some like them again, a cute female cat who play almost everyday all day who whould want something more than a fun ingame thing. But many only want that.

I''ll be honest - It's hard, really hard, to transfer an in-game relationship to real-life (if I'm correctly understanding what you are saying). The world is way too dangerous for that. It happens, I know but (I would think) a very small percentage of the time.
My son met a rl girlfriend that way (it's over but she ended up being "normal") and not stalker-movie bait.

As far as in-game, are you on an RP server at all? I have a similar in-game story. Fell hard for the cutest Miquo'te I've ever seen then she tossed me to the curb.
For another goddess-damned Miquo'te. Us Hyurs just can't compete with the kittens

[Gemina]

I''ll be honest - It's hard, really hard, to transfer an in-game relationship to real-life (if I'm correctly understanding what you are saying). The world is way too dangerous for that. It happens, I know but (I would think) a very small percentage of the time.
My son met a rl girlfriend that way (it's over but she ended up being "normal") and not stalker-movie bait.

As far as in-game, are you on an RP server at all? I have a similar in-game story. Fell hard for the cutest Miquo'te I've ever seen then she tossed me to the curb.
For another goddess-damned Miquo'te. Us Hyurs just can't compete with the kittens

No one takes a kitty home to mama! Teh mens find themselves a nice Midlander gal when ready to settle down.

[TattersailNightwish]

No one takes a kitty home to mama! Teh mens find themselves a nice Midlander gal when ready to settle down.

OH! So it's have all your fun with the kitties, ply them with catnip, then settle down with a Midlander?

[MrPresident]

Bruh.......

[Vidu]

I'm certainly not an expert on this, but I'd reckon that wanting a relationship for the sake of having a relationship isnt a healthy or "fair" basis for anyone - you should want to be in a relationship with a certain someone, not find "anyone" to be in a relationship with! I dont think anyone has any real advice on how to find that certain someone, everyone might have their own story there (or not... depending on their situation after all), but relaxing about the whole thing might be a good first step - even if its not an easy one.

While you'll get nowhere without being a bit proactive (Ask that girl out if you really like her and care about her!), you need to find a healthy balance here and should certainly ask yourself if you want to date someone because you want to date them - or if you only want to date anyone. As long as its the later: Dont, thats not gonna make you happy in the end.
Try to forget about it for a while. Learn to love yourself - and be yourself, you'll eventually find people that are going to like that/you! (If you havent already) And maybe they're girls amongst them and maybe one of them actually things "Hey... that guy is actually pretty cute and sweet...!"

Two advices that are a bit more practical:
You can bypass the 1.000 character-limit by editing your first post - type everything, copy, post part of it, edit the rest in.
We're also having this Hook-up-eternal-bonding-thread in the forum - you can always try posting there and see if someone takes an intrest. Some people are just looking for an ingame thing, some are open to extend it to a more real life version - good luck either way!