I'm not sure there's anything else I could contribute to answer your main question that the others haven't already said (my newbie status notwithstanding anyway), but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that happened to you OP. Break-ups suck, and there's no getting around that. But I hope things look up for you soon! On the bright side, I think it's wonderful you made a friend on your server. I'm sure they can help you through this as well.