Tips on being a mentor but not sounding bossy

[Miste]

is that reminding them about rotations is being the efficiency police.

My intentions were to help. If those people perceive incorrectly without asking me for clarification then that is their own fault, not mine. They made an assumption that was incorrect and started harassing me for their own mistake instead of simply asking me what my intention was. Like I said before it takes at least two people to have a conversation; it does not only rest upon my shoulders to make sure the situation stays respectful.

So sometimes the right thing to do in a conversation is just to "listen"

You want me to "listen" to insults? Sorry, but this makes no sense. Every one of those scenarios the players just threw insults at me...why would anyone "listen" to that?

Sorry, but I don't agree with your opinions on this nor would I likely ever agree.

You do not have to use name calling, insults, or swearing to set an aggressive tone in text.

You need to use them if you want to 100% show you are trying to set an aggressive tone. Otherwise the other person has no idea what "tone" you are using since they cannot hear you. Like I said before you cannot tell a person's tone through text if they use very neutral common words. Just using "you" doesn't mean someone is being hostile on purpose. "You" is a common and highly used English word, people use it all the time. Instead of assuming a person could just ask the other person's intention.

Not everyone knows about "soft language". I would say most people don't. They likely just talk to people like they would to casual acquaintances, simple but polite with no insults, name calling, or swearing. Unless you've done college level English I would say most people don't know these concepts and especially in an online game where there may be younger players.

So again I advocate not making assumptions.