Tips on being a mentor but not sounding bossy

[Raqrie_Tohka]

I respectfully disagree.

I respect your disagreement. But I am not wholly persuaded by it. As I said, there are those kinds of people who will not be persuaded by words, and there are also those who are better at words than you, or would like to use words the wrong way, aka. word puzzles. Structured argument and conclusions, even in your concise 3-sentence format, would achieve nothing if the person was not feeling like listening to begin with. You may be able to win a debate and force the other to realize "yes, I am doing this wrong, I am slowing down the run, I am bad, and I should probably do it in a better way", but you cannot make them want to "improve, adapt, be a nicer person and make the game better for everyone, in general". You are not their butler and you cannot be there the next time they does something wrong, or every time after that too.

So my line of logic is that instead of correcting their trivial mistake one at a time, it be better you let them understand, even just a little, and via showing, not telling, what it means to think, to think of actions and mechanics in this game, to think for others, and to continuously improve of oneself. Of course this is not applicable nor even ideal for all situations as Miste said, but this is my thoughts on the matter and my stance on it as well.

Jas710 also mentions that if one mentors, one mentors regardless of the status or not, a viewpoint I echoed. But Altena also points out the "mentor" system by itself is highly structural and only for answering "simple questions", perhaps not truly worth the "mentor" name. But then again, "botanist" in this game only has about 2.5% similarity to actual real life botany, at most, So I guess this is just a make believe game meant to make you feel good while doing good things. Mentor system may be no different ... thus your "control" view of only taking mentor system like a job or task to only give enough and nothing more ... only focusing on clarity and professionalism in wording, is actually sound reasoning from this perspective. I would reason in the same way too, back when I did telephone operator for community hotlines, by being a human google on a phone. You don't put emotion into it even if your whole job was a charity to help. But do we like it? Is that truly an ideal existence? Is there nothing we can do about it? Well now we get to the big questions again.