Anyone else feel bad when giving commendations to DPS?

[AkashiXI]

I'm very laid back about commendations and I just go off a flow chart I thought up:

(If I'm a tank) - Healer if they both dps and heal adequately.

(If I'm the healer) - Tank if they're consistent with pulls and use CDs. They don't have to be a fast puller, however they can't pause 30 seconds before every pack of enemies.

(If I'm a DPS) - If the other DPS has, well, good DPS.

(If there's a cool or elegant looking Elezen) they get automatically, unless they're a jerk :V.

[Joe_Schmoe]

Anyone else feel bad when giving commendations to DPS?

Not at all. By default all my comms go to either the tank or the healer. If it goes to a DPSer, you know he went above and beyond (what a tank/healer did).

[JumperX]

I just do my achievement "give 5 comms" to get my reward so I just do it randomly. After i get that, I don't give comm to anyone, and I even don't get comm cuz I just leave the DF asap cuz I there are other things to do outside the game or just queue again to get to the next dungeon.

This is the only MMO that "forces" (referring to those players that ask for comms after the last boss or during the DF dungeon) me to give something to a random stranger. I explain things in dungeons when there are new ppl and/or asked for some tips ( I met very few people who thought I was a jerk/rude for ruining their experience with my tips so to respect that minority I ask or wait for people questions ) but never expect anyone to give me a comm for just being polite like I would have done outside the game.

If someone asks me for help such as where is this classroom/building or where is the student services, or where is the adm & record office in my college, then I just help them.

[Zarabeth]

Give credit where credit is due, Nothing to feel bad about.

[Venur]

Most of the time I give it to DPS, I don't see why tank or healer should deserve it more ?

I'll give it to a tank only if he is a really good puller and the healer will get it only if he either, dealt a good chunk of DPS or did an awsome healer job forced by a bad tank or a bad DPS. If someone was nice in chat he might get it reguardless of the class he play and sometimes nobody earn my reccomandation (especialy in PotD with so many bad players making the run a chore).

[JunseiKei]

I commend DPS when they do things like:

Ranged physical gives TP or MP restoration when respective bars are low
Goad is given
Appropriately using AoE skills

Usually only commend a tank if they don't stop. I don't care about large or small pulls, just don't stop. I get tired of hearing my husband complain about the tank stopping and making him lose grease. Keeping aggro is a given, too.

Healers I'll commend if the DPS or tank didn't fulfill those requirements and they at least tried to DPS. Or didn't go DPS crazy and got us wiped from forgetting to heal the tank (that's becoming absurdly common). Yeah, I rarely commend healers.

Most of the time, I end up giving no commendations out.

[Aramina]

I always commend whoever I think performed the best, regardless of their role in the party.

The one thing I absolutely love is healers that run to go grab chests/doors/keys/ect. When I'm in something like Haukke and I see a SCH DoT a group up, Bane, plant Eos down, then go deal with whatever would normally slow the run down, I instantly want to throw commendations at them.

I do this! Not for comms, but it is one of my small (ok not so small) pet peeves when DPS run to open chest/interact with things/etc because (in theory at least) "we" are losing DPS anytime they aren't hitting things. Does it make a big difference? I will admit probably not, but it is still something that bugs me way more than it should.

edit: It also bugs me when tanks click the coffins in Tam Tara hard because of the (very brief I know) stun. Basically I can do my primary role with no dropoff while doing the extra things and they can't so it bugs me when they do.

/soapbox

[Azper]

As I primarily run as a healer for all content, my commendation usually goes to the tank if:

They properly managed cooldowns, allowing maximum up time on my own DPS
Successfully pulled multiple packs and didn't lose hate
Dodged avoidable attacks as necessary

If they were otherwise awful, I just consult the magic crystal ball to see which DPS to give it to unless they did something spectacular. I do enjoy when ranged/magic jobs use the LB to wipe out a particularly large pack of trash, so that's usually noteworthy to me. Sadly it's hard to gauge individual DPS performance in this game just by what we're given, which is why I think an official parser would be nice.

[Gemina]

I almost always run content as healer, and DPS get my comms as much, if not more than tanks. It is SO easy for the tank to lose my comm. I notice their gameplay the most, and anytime they add extra stress, they lose the comm. I prefer to give my comm to those who go above the standard expectations to clear a run. If a BLM gives me mana, a BRD refreshes it, a SMN raises my dead butt, a DRG/NIN/MNK/other DPS focuses down a mob trying to eat my face, etc. I notice these things, and will give said DPS my comm.

There have been situations where I wish I could give everyone a comm because everyone went above and beyond, and made the run super smooth. In these cases I actually kind of hope one or two leave quickly to reduce my choices for me. Instead I just tell the group I wish I could give everyone a comm, and just randomly pick someone to give it to. I will not give a comm to anyone by default if no one left an impression. This rarely happens though.

[Rasler_Heios]

I always comm someone who flip themselves off the edge for comic relief

I wish people had given me commends when I flipped off the edge. Im a DRG, I would consider doing that next time.