Hi

Generally I do a quick glance at health/gear and classes and go from there. If the group looks solidly built I don't worry about going through asking and just run and grab (of couse if we die I appologise). Otherwise I will ask, or just do smaller pulls unless complained at.

Frankly as a tank you shouldn't be kicked for smaller groups, everyone gets to play their class as they like and I can't stand when people kick people for not playing how they want.

At the end of the day everyone should be working together to make the run as smooth as possible for all, if the white mage is uncomfortable with large pulls I am more than happy to do smaller ones, I would rather a slightly slower run then a fast run full of grumps.

I say just keep doing what you can do, you will get better with the class through practise.