Everyone disagreeing with each other, both sides saying "no one disagrees with me!" Both sides saying "No one thinks like you do!"

The reality is left as if you don't know whether a group is going to do well or not, you cannot effectively plan around it. A DPS can simply DPS. A tank can simply tank. Both of these do their jobs simply by doing what they'd be doing regardless, but we can't exactly have healers just mass party healing simply by attacking.

To everyone bickering that your side of the argument is the correct side of the argument, you need to settle down and listen for a while. Understanding is the difference between listening and witnessing, and you all aren't doing it. (I mean some are, but don't just assume you are, take a step back and look at yourself you know)

Honestly I like the OP's ideas to fix this. Are they the right solutions? I'm not here to tell you that. What is being discussed here isn't about balance, or the healers role in a fight, but rather the endless debate between players about what a healer should be doing at any given time.