Dumb Server transfer rules

[Paladinleeds]

They wanted to have a full group for Palace of the dead, which we cant do cross realm.

You can. I had a try myself of POTD cross-realm since my friends were on Odin and me Louisoix. We were able to create and queue as a fixed group no problem. So don't worry about that. Yeah, I agree it sucks you can't hang out freely and help do hunts etc (felt it myself when I moved to Louisoix getting the same 90 day thing), but instanced content isn't an issue. And yeah, I don't see them lifting the restriction from your account, but, it's only 90 days, and I haven't seen any new congested worlds added (only 2 removed from congested, Cerberus and Odin), so I'm sure you'll be able to transfer there after the 90 days.

how did you get auto placed? Don't recall that ever happening when I've made alts on other servers

I think she means when she went to realm select, it said to her "Here's your realm". There's an option to change realm, but it can be missed. The way it is phrased can make it look like "you've been issued this realm, deal with it", if you aren't fully aware.